Kendra's Korner

Are Dating and courtship out dated? When I was a little girl I grew up watching movies and hearing stories from my parents about dating. You would see in the movies the young man bringing the girl some flowers, taking her to dinner, opening every door, taking her to a movie, and then dropping her off at night with a kiss or hug goodbye. As for my parents I grew up hearing their stories of having a picnic in a phone booth or going on scavenger hunts. How my dad would call the house and ask my Grandpa’s permission to take my mom on a date that night.                 So, its safe to say that when I got to high school and started dating I was quite disappointed to find that was not what dating was for my generation at all. I found that instead of asking a girl on a date that a guy would ask you to hang out at his house with his friends and get your number. He would start texting you and you would keep hanging out...

Growing up I had two older brothers who I always wanted to be like. They were strong, brave, cool and I wanted to do everything they did. I would tag a long, most of the time this was fine but then there were times I just couldn’t keep up. And sometimes I just couldn’t understand them. Like when them and their friends would destroy my barbies in many different ways. I remember so many times just crying because I just wanted to be one of the boys. In today's world they would tell me that I can, and that my brothers and parents were oppressing me or forcing me to fill the role of a dainty girl. But I am thankful for parents who taught me something different. They taught me that I was a wonderful beautiful amazing girl who could do anything I wanted or put my mind too.  From there my prospective changed it wasn’t about being like them but being me. There are certain things about me that make me different and that’s great. I soon learned how to use this to my advantage learning how...

Culture, what is culture? The Webster dictionary defines it as “the characteristic features of everyday existence (such as diversions or a way of life) shared by people in a place or time”. With this definition in mind think about family’s, your family. As we live together for long periods of time and are raised by the same people we tend to do, believe and think similarly. And each family does things their own way and they all differ from each other. Every family has their own unique culture. For example, I grew up in a home where drinking soda was a normal everyday occurrence. My parents would both come home from work with a soda. Us kids would sip out of there drinks all the time and if we asked they would almost always get us one as well. I didn’t think anything of this until I had a roommate who grew up in a home where they never drank soda except for very special occasions and even then, were only allowed a small amount. This may be a silly example but its clear to see that ...

Relationships are so complicated. We all know what it’s like to have miscommunication in a relationship rather with a spouse, friend or family member. Why is this? You would hope that after getting married or growing up in the same home that your relationship would run smoothly. Well there are a few theory’s that might shed some light on this for us. The first one is called Exchange Theory. This theory states that as human beings we tend to want to get back at least if not more what we put into a relationship. So, for example a husband comes home and a wife has cooked a great dinner and has been cleaning all day. She feels that she has put a great worth into helping him and showing her love for him. All she expects is help with the dishes and maybe a thank you. That would be the perfect reward for all that she has done. When he gets up from the table and drops his dish in the sink without a word and leaves she gets upset. In this instance she dose not feel she has been given back w...