Kendra's Korner

Have you ever gotten in an argument with someone you really care for? And although your trying to resolve things or work things out it escalates, or you walk away both upset. I think we all have. When you care about someone but have differing opinions and views it becomes almost impossible not to have moments like these, but we can change the outcomes. Based on how we respond to these situations. There is a five-step communication process that will help us not only be able to resolve conflict but have a productive interaction. Step one Disarming Technique: This technique is simple but so hard. You have to stop blaming the other person and look for the truth in what that person is saying. This technique does a few things when you stop looking to blame the other person but look to see what and how you can be better then it makes you feel better. It helps seep away any anger and frustration. Then when you think about what they’ve said and find the truth and address it they then feel v...

Have you ever had a struggle in life and you just cant understand why you have to go through it.   You may even ask God why. We all have. These times in our lives are so hard but as you look back you can see that they are also defining moments in your life that altered your life in one way or another. We can see that they rather built us up or tore us down. I look back in my life and I can see several experiences like this. One that tore me down was when I was in seventh grade, I got pushed into a brick wall in PE and my hip got popped out of place. After going to the doctors and getting the medical attention needed when I returned to soccer, I found it very painful and frustrating. I soon found myself quitting the sport I had played since I was four. As I got older, I tried new sports like water polo and others but when it got hard, I gave up. I found that my reaction to that challenge set a pattern for sports for a long time and it took a lot of work to get over that mentalit...

I am probably one of the biggest romantics in the world. I just love love. But no matter how much I dream or look forward to that day that I fall in love and get married, I am also scared out of my mind! In truth it’s my biggest fear in life that the person I love more then anything will one day decide he no longer wants me or cheats on me. IN my life I have watched so many families and couples fall apart to someone not being faithful. Watching that pain and having felt some of that pain in my life from a unfaithful boyfriend makes me very weary and afraid of it also being a part of my marriage. But thankfully I have learned a lot of things that have finally put my mind and heart at rest.   And has helped me to be able to have faith in getting married and not letting this fear stop me from one of the things that will be that most beautiful and joyful in my life. In order for me to properly explain the things that have brought me peace I first need to explain the four kinds of a...

You’re in love, your engaged and now what?   You plan a big wedding have the party of a life time and live happily ever after? That’s what a lot of us believe but in reality, there are so many other adjustments and decisions to be made. While you are engaged you must come together as a couple and start making important decisions like a budget both for the wedding and for after.. As you make these decisions together it will help you come together as a couple and make the wedding yours not just the brides. Imagine the difference on that big day on one hand she planned everything, and you just showed up.   Where on the other hand you and your fiancée sit together and make decisions. You keep the cost low and do somethings yourselves on that day it wouldn’t just be a celebration of your marriage, but you get to enjoy what you created together. Also, you need to make decisions like which friends to keep, which to let go and how much they are going to be apart of your life. At...

Are Dating and courtship out dated? When I was a little girl I grew up watching movies and hearing stories from my parents about dating. You would see in the movies the young man bringing the girl some flowers, taking her to dinner, opening every door, taking her to a movie, and then dropping her off at night with a kiss or hug goodbye. As for my parents I grew up hearing their stories of having a picnic in a phone booth or going on scavenger hunts. How my dad would call the house and ask my Grandpa’s permission to take my mom on a date that night.                 So, its safe to say that when I got to high school and started dating I was quite disappointed to find that was not what dating was for my generation at all. I found that instead of asking a girl on a date that a guy would ask you to hang out at his house with his friends and get your number. He would start texting you and you would keep hanging out...

Growing up I had two older brothers who I always wanted to be like. They were strong, brave, cool and I wanted to do everything they did. I would tag a long, most of the time this was fine but then there were times I just couldn’t keep up. And sometimes I just couldn’t understand them. Like when them and their friends would destroy my barbies in many different ways. I remember so many times just crying because I just wanted to be one of the boys. In today's world they would tell me that I can, and that my brothers and parents were oppressing me or forcing me to fill the role of a dainty girl. But I am thankful for parents who taught me something different. They taught me that I was a wonderful beautiful amazing girl who could do anything I wanted or put my mind too.  From there my prospective changed it wasn’t about being like them but being me. There are certain things about me that make me different and that’s great. I soon learned how to use this to my advantage learning how...

Culture, what is culture? The Webster dictionary defines it as “the characteristic features of everyday existence (such as diversions or a way of life) shared by people in a place or time”. With this definition in mind think about family’s, your family. As we live together for long periods of time and are raised by the same people we tend to do, believe and think similarly. And each family does things their own way and they all differ from each other. Every family has their own unique culture. For example, I grew up in a home where drinking soda was a normal everyday occurrence. My parents would both come home from work with a soda. Us kids would sip out of there drinks all the time and if we asked they would almost always get us one as well. I didn’t think anything of this until I had a roommate who grew up in a home where they never drank soda except for very special occasions and even then, were only allowed a small amount. This may be a silly example but its clear to see that ...